Spiritually speaking, it is said that even before you were born, the name of your spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a perfect match… your soulmate. Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss, your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you “complete yourself.” Keep reading on to learn how to find your soulmate.
6 Ways To Find Your Soulmate
Enjoy being single
It may seem counterintuitive, but it is important that you are as happy and confident as a single person before you are ready to find your soulmate. Relationships will last longer if both partners are healthy, stable, and confident in themselves. If you want to find your soulmate, and if you want your ideal partner to be equally attracted to you–you have to know who you are, what you want, and like yourself. Some ways for you to enjoy spending time with yourself include:
- Finding interesting hobbies to pursue
- Valuing your friendships and family
- Pursuing an interesting, stable career
- Practicing being confident and strong
- Keeping a diary to help keep you focused and to remind you of how far you’ve come
Cultivate desirable traits in yourself
Make a list of traits you enjoy in a partner. Perhaps you are attracted to a good sense of humor or to a nice smile. Maybe you like someone who is athletic and participates in sports, or maybe you are attracted to someone who enjoys reading novels. No matter what the trait is, consider how you might be able to embody that trait yourself. If you work on yourself in this way, you might find that you end up meeting somebody who shares your interests and desires. Moreover, if you do not end up meeting your soulmate in this way, you will still have improved yourself and learned new skills.
Get clear about what you really want
Each failed relationship in your past has given you clues about what you want in your ideal partner. The problem is, many people focus on the negative instead of the positive.
For example, by saying that you don’t want a man who “puts his work before the relationship,” you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy.
The good news is, if you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want. Your power to create lies in your ability to choose thoughts that are positively clear so that you can tell the universe exactly what you desire. (For example, “I want a man who puts me first and loves me unconditionally.”)
Keep an open mind
Studies show that people are not always able to predict the traits to which they are most attracted. If you make a list of desirable traits, it is quite likely that you will be attracted to a person in real life who exhibits quite different traits. It is fine to have a few relationship dealbreakers as you attempt to find your ideal partner: however, let your instincts guide you more than a list of pros and cons. You might be surprised by the wonderful person you meet.
Don’t seek perfection
If you keep a strict vision in your head of what your soul mate should be like, you’ll probably miss out on the person you’re meant to be with. “Your soul mate is usually not who you’ve envisioned, but an entity of love that co-opts a body that mirrors all of your imperfections in a way that makes you love yourself more,” says sexologist Frenchie Davis, host of Libido Talk “You’ll find your soul mate in what you consider your flaws. It will be the person that admires what you’re afraid to love about yourself.”
Take it slow
“When it comes to finding your soul mate, remember that you can’t rush things,” says dating and relationship expert Laura Bilotta. “It may take a while, but when the timing is right, everything will align,” she says.
If you’re, like, the most impatient person ever though (hi, it me): “Be patient and stay positive. Take some time to work on yourself, think about what you’re looking for and what will make you happy. And if the search for ‘the one’ is getting exhausting, don’t be afraid to take a step back until you’re ready to get back into the dating game so that you can put yourself fully into it. You need to enjoy the ride and trust that your soul mate will come along when you’re ready for them.”